No One Is Coming

One of the most important moments is when the client grasps that no one is coming. No one is coming to save me; no one is coming to make life right for me; no one is coming to solve my problems. If I donít do something, nothing is going to get better. The dream of a rescuer who will deliver us may offer a kind of comfort, but it leaves us passive and powerless. We may feel if only I suffer long enough, if only I yearn desperately enough, somehow a miracle will happen, but this is the kind of self-deception one pays for with oneís life as it drains away into the abyss of unredeemable possibilities and irretrievable days, months, decades.

Nathaniel Branden, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem